“How was your day?”
“Anything interesting happen?
“How did the test go?”
“Do you have homework?”
“What did you work on in class?”
“Can I have a snack?”
Do you ever feel like you are talking to a brick wall? Even for the most well-intentioned parent (and perhaps more so for them), finding out about your child’s day at school is like chipping gold out of a boulder. Prepared with a few tools, though, you may find your efforts reaping more rewards.
Wait. Hitting her with a barrage of questions as soon as she gets in the car or walks in the door is not ideal. Give her a chance to unwind and process her day before reciting the ins and outs of it.
Ask open-ended questions. Even though you may not get as much as you want (“My day was great! I aced my test and I sat next to Stevie at lunch and I raised my hand six times and volunteered to feed the hamster!”) you will probably get more than “yeah” or “nope.”
Try to find out as much as you can on your own about the routines of his day. If you know what they are studying in science or when they go to music, you can ask pointed questions.
I should have prefaced these suggestions with a disclaimer: I still often find out little more than a grunt about my kids’ days at school. But a little is certainly better than nothing!